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 My family sucks. I can't rely on them for anything. I help them w/o hesitation or conditions. But when I need something, I either have to do it myself or pay a professional.For example, my sister & her 14 yr old daughter.....I asked them to babysit last Saturday so my wife could go out to watch the fights. WE NEVER GET TO GO OUT ALONE ANY MORE UNLESS WE PAY A BABYSITTER. My jackass sister wanted to run some bullshit non-essential errands so she didn't feel like it. We got her daughter some really nice clothes & a purse in the Summer in exchange for babysitting WHENEVER WE NEED. She hasn't come close to fulfilling the obligation. She gave my wife some garbage response about having plans (hanging @ Starbucks isn't real plans). And she had the audacity to say my kids are bad (they are as mellow as kids get). Then the bitch went on Facebook & indirectly cursed my wife out. Rather than punish her, my sister said "well, that's how she feels". Needless to say, we are in a fight w/my ungrateful sister & niece. She wanted me to host Thanksgiving for her, her boyfriend & all the kids (4 total). We've decided to tell them "FUCK OFF". I want to hear from the Jackals. I want to hear inspiring tales of your Brady Bunch / Partridge families to make me feel better. Or tell me how bad they suck (in the case of Shawn's mom, her sucking is actually really good) & continue to disappoint you year after year.  My family lives 3000 miles away :)  Remember..........you only have one family. My wife has no family whatsoever which has taught me to appreciate the fact that I have parents and sisters who love and care about me.Life, however, blows. Life blows?I joked earlier but Omo's right. My girlfriend lost both her parents and is an only child. And even though her parents don't sound like they were all that great, she misses them all the time. And she would love siblings. She says she feels all alone sometimes, which I don't understand, but it makes me appreciate my family more. I love my family and they love me, but I know what each of them is good at and try to keep my expectations in line with reality. I'm happy for you fuckers, genuinely. My mother is a recovered (I think) drug addict & a generally shitty person. My dad split when I was 3. We reconnected when I reached out @ 18. He died a few years ago from cancer. I don't miss him (I'm broken inside) as much as I miss my kids having a grandpa.I swore last year I wouldn't fight like this w/my sister b/c we're all we have. But she is just an awful, selfish person sometimes. My grandmother raised me (typical Brooklyn story) & she was a saint. I didn't appreciate her til a decade after she died. She never saw me have a job, wife or kids. THAT SUCKS. The rest of my family is a joke. My friend has an amazing family that stays close, does reunions & supports everyone in general. I always wanted to pattern myself after him. I get to do that w/my kids....  I have a sister that used to steal from the rest of us, but she's trying to straighten out. A gay older brother in San Francisco. An even older half brother here in the state. Subo.....I like the gay mention like its a bad thing. Ha!!  Who is my mother? and who are my brethren? And he stretched forth his hand toward his disciples, and said, Behold my mother and my brethren! For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother.matt. 12:48  my closest family member is 15 hours away....They are all great for the most part  My whole family is nothing but awesome, so I'm lucky  I broke my neck 2.5 yrs ago and would probably be a fuckin drugged out mess if my mom wasnt here to help me out.. no other siblings.. dad lives 10 hrs drive away..so im lucky to have a very caring mom. my dad is too poor to rly help out. I'm glad you guys aren't cursed like me & my wife (her brothers are okay, mother is absolutely fuct, dad is dead). I know when my 2 girls grow up, they'll love the shit out of me b/c I actually care about their feelings & support them no matter what. I'm acting like a little bitch in this thread but I really do like to hear about the good families too.... Okay Frick. My wifes family is a fucking mess. Her parents split when she was 2 or 3. Her mother never loved her or her brother. Her father saw them on the weekends and slept on the couch all day and night, never spending time with them. When she was at her mothers she was not allowed to leave her room or go outside and play because of an abusive asshole stepfather. Her mother was also mentally abusive. She's dealing with major issues at this point in her life involving abandonment and basically feeling invisible.I had a good family life, but some experiences during my early teen years fucked me up pretty badly. (not trying to get too far into detail) Here I am, almost 30, been with my wife for 10 years, and she tells me she's leaving 5 months ago. It's due to the problems that I had that were never addressed. Finally after therapy and a lot of meditation (don't knock it till you try it) we are working through things. I've broken through, but she's still slowly working on her issues. The marriage may never end up working out. We have two kids who we love dearly. We both know that our son is so sensitive that he could never handle us breaking up. Life is pretty horrible right now, but we are both level headed, caring people. The point of sharing this is that life is what you make of it. If you have issues, make sure that you deal with them in a positive, healthy manor. Even if you have a "good" life, events can happen that lead towards a downward spiral. If you love your wife and children, look to them for comfort. Take your sis for what she's worth because she's obviously having a hard time with things as well. But....don't let anyone take advantage. Omo-->that's too funny (in a tragic way). My wife & I are in therapy too!! I thought my marriage was a shining beacon in a sea of failure. It was for a while. We're on our 3rd "professional". The 1st guy fell asleep (yes, my wife rambles that bad). The 2nd was morbidly obese....when she started drawing tangents to her going to Overeaters Anonymous meetings, we were outta there!! The 3rd seems pretty good.....If we didn't have kids, I'd be gone. But I think I'm glad about that. We have much more good days than bad days lately. And my wife started working again this year instead of maxing our credit cards online all day & lying about it. I thought I grew a lot when I became a father. But the hardest mountain to climb for me is being a husband while being a father. When my marriage fell apart last year, I reconnected w/my sister & it felt great. She's a complete ass but she's my only real family. She offered to babysit "whenever" so my wife & I could actually spend some time alone again. Now that I call in the favor, she balks. So I'm pissed. She's cheaper than Scrooge McDuck w/her money but she would rather see me pay a babysitter than interrupt her lazy Saturday of doing nothing. That's the hard part. We've been doing whatever possible to find people to babysit. My family is an hour away, so that's tough. When they do watch the kids its usually Friday night thru Sunday. That's pretty awesome. Those weekends are few and far between though.Marriage is hard work. The most important thing is that both sides have to want it.  Hm, I have 3 kids, Mom up and walked out 2 years ago so she could bang boys 10 years her junior. Was a single dad for a year and a half, dealing with three girls wondering where's mom? Glad she's gone though, piece of shit that she was. I created a reality that she was a good woman with issues and I won't make that mistake again. Mom and dad & brother came through for me in that year..helped watch the kids when I needed a break and such. They are great people. New woman, she has 2 kids of her own, so we're now a mixed family of seven. Happier than I've ever been. So are the girls, my little princesses. I've asked people to babysit and what I've realized is that excuses are made, so it's easier not to ask. We just hire someone. Can't give you any advice on your sister without sounding preachy, so I won't. Except for this: When someone says something ambiguous like "whenever", it's bullshit. Hire a babysitter. Omo-->why are we living the same life? Who are you really?!Acadian (aka Mike Brady)-->before my own problems, I had no idea how many marriages DON'T make it! And from what I've heard, the marriages that do make it, had a major crisis @ some point. Also, my friends & family never wanted to say anything bad about my wife til we had problems. Then the floodgates were open for negative opinion (not that I minded). I was more annoyed that people can't be honest b/c they're worried about "feelings" (what are they anyway?). My girls are so happy. It would devastate them to break up the family. And they are my life force so I will avoid that @ all costs. I'm happy for you that you were able to put it all back together! Mine turned on my wife at first as well. I put on a pretty big front for a long time and nobody knew that I was having internal personal problems on my own that didn't involve her but affected our marriage. It actually caused far more stress for me. Instead of being supportive, my family lost it. Once I "smacked them around" they actually listened to the situation. Those were some of the hardest days of my life.........talking to your parents about being a major let down to your wife and seriously effing things up. I'm never getting married. My girlfriend thanks you. Marriage is overrated. Unless your chick is worth a lot more than you. Marriage is work. I'm happy that I'm married.
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